Episode 2:
Breaking the Cycle: Redefining Parenting for Ourselves and Our Kids
with Dr. Laura Berssenbrugge, licensed clinical psychologist and Co-Founder of The Modern Asian Parent
Are you trying to understand how to parent using the best of Asian and Western approaches?
In this episode of Courage Class, Lindsay speaks with Dr. Laura Berssenbrugge, a licensed clinical psychologist and Co-Founder of The Modern Asian Parent (MAP).
Together, they discuss the importance of creating real sustainable change in parenting (hint: it starts with us), the strengths and challenges of traditional Asian values, and the significance of emotional resilience and validation in parenting. They also explore methods for addressing intergenerational trauma and the vital role of repair in family relationships.
Gain invaluable insights on how to parent with a blend of Asian and Western approaches, honoring both cultural heritage and modern values.
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“ There is definitely a way to align with that value of achievement while also not saying like all A’s are nothing. And one of the tools that I think is really helpful for that is actually focusing more process goals rather than achievement goals.”
Dr. Laura Berssenbrugge, Co-Founder of The Modern Asian Parent
What you learn in this episode:
- Parenting starts with meaningful, sustainable change within ourselves and how we parent begins with our own growth and self-reflection;
- The strengths and challenges of traditional Asian parenting norms and how to integrate them with modern approaches;
- Why fostering emotional resilience and validation in both parents and creates healthier family relationships;
- How healing intergenerational trauma is passed down and what we can do to heal it; and
- The important role of repair (such as a sincere apology to rebuild trust).
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About the Guest
Dr. Laura Berssenbrugge is a Hawaii- and New York-based clinical psychologist in private practice. She is the Co-Founder of The Modern Asian Parent and the Founder + Clinical Director of Gramercy Psychology. She works with individuals across the lifespan and specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and evidence-based treatments for anxiety-related disorders (including Selective Mutism/ SM), mood disorders, OCD, PTSD, social skill and communication issues, and more.
She is the creator of “Dr. Laura B’s Release, Relgulate, & Relax Aromatherapy Inhaler Set”, a DBT-inspired stress management tool designed to reduce physical and emotional stress at different emotional intensity levels. And the author of several workbooks, such as: “Beyond the Blush: A CBT Approach to Overcoming Social Anxiety”.
About The Modern Asian Parent
The Modern Asian Parent (MAP) believes in the power of intergenerational healing – honoring cultural roots while breaking harmful cycles to build healthier, more connected families for the future.
Founded by two Asian American psychologists, MAP is a movement for parents of all backgrounds who want to raise emotionally healthy, resilient kids in cultures of pressure, perfectionism, and sacrifice.
Redefine parenting in a way that honors our values and culture, while embracing the future. Together, they’re creating a world where every child—and parent—feels supported, understood, and empowered to succeed.
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